Last Updated on October 12, 2020 by Brittany
Would you consider yourself a confident woman? If so what makes you feel that way? If not why don’t you feel that way? You see confidence is a mindset, it’s a lifestyle, and it is different than self -esteem (which too is undoubtedly just as important) Confidence is the beginning of everything. You must feel confident to drive a car, go to a job interview, cook a meal, the list goes on. However, one thing is for sure it is imperative to your success! Before we discuss the secrets of a confident woman let’s talk about the correlation to self-esteem.
What is the difference between confidence & self-esteem?
Without knowing we use these terms to mean the same things when they are in fact vastly different. They are both as important, and both worthy of being explored further because these two done right can become a wild combination for a woman who in my opinion is the BOMB dot com!
A woman who enters a room and doesn’t need the approval of anyone or anything to know who she is. A woman that is empowered to live her life on her terms, and doesn’t apologize for doing so. So let’s talk about the difference…
What is Self-esteem?
According to the good old Merriam Webster dictionary, self-esteem is described as self-respect or how you view yourself. This definition can be grouped into things like
- Body image
The list goes on and on. The main point here is that it is the view you have on yourself as a person.
So what about self confidence?Not sure if you’ve got it? Take the assessment!
Confidence is defined as being certain in your ability to do something specific. So, for instance, you may be confident in doing your daily job tasks or driving a car, or confident in your ability to add 2+2. Make sense? So in actuality, you can be confident in a particular area but still lack self-esteem which is why BOTH are important. I want you to LOVE who you are and be confident in what you do!
Now the great thing here is the more confident you are in different areas the better it will reflect on your self-esteem. Because really who can be confident in everything they do and not somewhat like who they are? It’s almost impossible! So below are some secrets I am going to share (only with my Level up Ladies) because you are the creme DE la creme, and deserve to know those things that will take you higher. Keep reading…
1.) A confident woman knows her worth!
That’s right! I said it! She knows her WORTH, and she does not take discounts. A confident woman does not need the stamp of approval from anyone telling her what her value is because she knows it without having anyone agree. This is one of the most empowering signs of a confident woman. AND one of the most challenging things to do because we live in a world where many of us are insecure and worried about what others think of us.
I am here to tell you that one of the most freeing things EVER like in the history of mankind is when you are NOT worried about the opinions of others because guess what?! They don’t matter! The time people take to worry about what your doing should be spent on them worrying about what they are doing.
I mean really…think about it. have you EVER seen anyone that is so worried about you and what you’re doing actually doing better than you? Most likely NO.
So knowing your worth is a combination of not caring what others think and valuing yourself enough to not tolerate things like
- Toxic relationships
- Verbal abuse
Lady, you are too amazing to tolerate any of the above in your life!
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2.) Building confidence takes effort.CLICK HERE PLEASE!!
Forbes has a great little article about being bad before you can be good at something and it is 100% true! Being confident in anything takes effort. If you ever see a confident woman you admire she for sure did not just fall there. She had the courage to take the things she was not confident in and face them head-on to learn HOW to do them.
Think of a baby… when they are learning how to walk in the beginning do they just fall one time, and never try to walk again?! Noway! Babies know that walking is their freedom their ability to cruise around the house and touch all of the things! So they fall over and over again until one day the walk like they are on Project Runway (
one of my favorite shows) or Naomi Campbell. Yasssss girl!
So if you are not good at something right now that’s okay! Give yourself the time it takes to get good, and watch your confidence soar.
3.) A confident woman respects her time.
I want to be really clear on this one, and sometimes I cringe when I hear the words “you’ve got plenty of time” because really you don’t. Now if you’re talking about plenty of time to do things that don’t serve you like partying, or staying up until 3 am..then maybe but I am referring to things you want to achieve. Things that require a goal and focus to master. Things that will improve your life for the better.
In order to achieve success you must value your time because it is limited. You only have 24 precious hours in a day, and they cannot be spent giving it to people or things that waste it.
So just think before you commit. Before you say yes to something ask yourself.
- Does this support my goals?
- Will this help me level up?
- Will this get me closer to what I want to achieve?
- (if its play) Have I done all I need to do today to reward myself with play?
4.) A confident woman has gotta have those goals.
I know it’s like a broken record gotta have goals…blah blah blah. But hey “If you don’t know where you’re going any road will take you there.”
Goals give you something to work towards, and something specific so that you can celebrate once you achieve it, and set the next goal. They are something to keep you motivated and help you make your dreams a reality.
Now there is a science to creating goals the right way and I have mapped it all out for you! Yep! I have made it easy peasy! Get your FREE Goal setting guide HERE. NO email required!
5.) A confident woman stares fear right in the face.
Feel the fear and do it anyway. Yup, it takes so much courage to face your fear head-on but when you do, you will feel like a million bucks! When you face fears it truly makes you feel invincible because most of the great things that have never been achieved were stopped due to fear.
Fear is a giant that only we make real in our mind. The more we think about it, and the more we do not do what we know we should fear becomes bigger and bigger and we get to the point where it will cripple us and convince us to NOT to the things we need to do.
As a confident woman, it should always be your mission to face fear head-on and not allow your mindset to keep you from your destiny.
6.) She finishes what she starts.
I know this from personal experience, and I am here to tell you that it is true! Life is a marathon not a sprint and all good things take time. If you constantly start new things then stop and start something else you will never achieve greatness in one specific thing.
So pick something that you enjoy doing and give it the time it takes to become what you imagine it can be. I promise you will be happy that you did.
7.) She runs the day, not the other way around.
From dawn to dusk she has an agenda. She keeps a calendar and schedules time for priorities. Listen having a to-do list is great but it will never make a difference if you don’t actually DO the things.
A confident woman schedules her waking time, and what tasks she has to do that day, and then once she has completed those tasks she makes room for any non-essentials.
She doesn’t get in the bed at night and think “wow where has the day gone?” “What did I accomplish today?” She already knows she did what she needed to do that day because she has run the day herself not let the day take her over.
8.) No is never an acceptable answer to the confident woman.
Now she can tell you no, but she doesn’t accept any LOL! There is always more than one way to skin a cat, and any confident woman knows that there are no such things as no’s.
You see, you must be resilient. You must be willing to go up, down, and around to get the things you want, and you mustn’t take no for an answer at any time. Where there is a will there is a way and all confident women seem to have mastered the skill of hearing yes.
9.) She loves herself no matter what stage she is in.
Look, things are not perfect all of the time, and you must not be so hard on yourself for every shortfall. There are times in life when you
- Weigh more than you’d like
- Hate your job
- Have less money
- Are being driven crazy by your kids
- Can’t stand your husband
There are ups and downs to any life. And the confident woman knows that everything is temporary and that things will always change for the better if you keep pushing through.
So the point is that any stage your in is temporary, and temporary things can always be changed. So be gentle with yourself and give yourself the time it takes to evolve into the confident woman you already are.
10) She is comfortable being uncomfortable.
Ah, gee whiz! Why do we strive to be comfortable and secure? Guess what there is no such thing as security. Everything in life is risk and we must be more concerned with being comfortable than uncomfortable.
You see being uncomfortable is where all the good stuff happens. Where all the magic is. It will require you to push your boundaries and become even more than you knew possible.
So if you go through each day of the week just going to a 9-5 getting home poping dinner in the microwave, and chilling on the couch to do it again the next day I challenge you to challenge yourself to be MORE!
You were not designed to just do the same thing every day. Live outside your comfort zone and welcome the feelings that go along with it because that is where the real you lies. That is where the real you belongs. Now go out there are show the world the confident woman you are!
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So Many Blessings,