Last Updated on January 19, 2021 by NPseo123
What we don’t realize is that most of the time we are the ones keeping ourselves from being happy. What I know for sure is that we ALL deserve happiness whatever that looks like for us. You see being happy is a lifestyle, it’s a mindset. In order to be happy and stay happy, there are certain things we need to embrace and let go of to maintain it. Here are 8 things you need to let go of to be happy.
1.) Let go of what other people think to be happy.
Ya know I used to be on eggshells worried about what others thought about my every move until I realized people may make a quick judgment or assumption about you, and that’s all they will ever think about you…you know why? Because people are worried about themselves. (as they very well should be)
Whatever you achieve in this life is 100% up to you, so why be worried about the ones who have nothing to do with your success? Sure it may sting for a moment when someone in the grocery store snickers at you for what you are wearing, but once you cruise to the checkout line you suddenly realize!…
They are not paying for these groceries, putting them in my car, OR riding home with me so their opinion (which they are entitled to) DOES NOT MATTER!
I used to get so worried about driving down the street and playing a song I loved while dancing in the car in fear of the person that pulled up next to me at the stoplight.
What would they think? Would they laugh? Would they look at me crazy?
You know what would happen if they did? NOTHING
So I made it a point when I want to jam out in my car to make sure I completely rock it out when I am beside someone to FREE myself.
2.) Stop comparing yourself to others if you want to be happy.
This one hurts my heart, and it should hurt yours too when you truly think about how beautiful and strong you are. Why would you want what anyone else has or heck to BE anyone else for that matter?
Now there is nothing wrong with striving for what others have like a home, or career, etc. I am talking about the direct comparison between the things God gave you VS someone else.
We all have special gifts that the world needs and the world would not be what it is if everyone was the same. Our job is to identify those gifts and embrace them as a part of who we are.
Once you do this you will have no choice to be filled with joy as you will become an authentic version of yourself that you don’t have to apologize for.
Now I know that it is easier said than done but one thing I know for sure that will kill comparison on the spot is…
Be grateful for your setbacks, and victories. Be grateful for your hurts, and your joyful moments. All of these things make you who you are and should be celebrated not overlooked as a misfortunate event.
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3.) Distance yourself from toxic people if you want to be happy.
Whew Lawd! If you haven’t had to deal with anyone toxic in your life consider it rare, and a missed bullet! Toxic people will drain you, and the wiser you get the easier it is to identify those in your life.
Now I am a firm believer that it doesn’t matter WHO it is if someone is bringing you down, stealing your joy, filling your mind with negativity they need to go!
Now if you don’t want to completely cut them out of your life that’s okay
there needs to be a conversation that sets boundaries, and if the other side isn’t willing to comply than cutting them out totally may be your only option.
You see in relationships there should be a give and take and mutual respect for one another. If someone is not respecting the boundaries you have set it’s a clear sign that their influence may be toxic. Here are some ways to identify toxic people.
However, I can tell you for sure if you are exhausted after dealing with them or happier without them that is a sure sign.
4.) Let go of living in the past.
This can be a tough one, and something we have all been guilty of a time or too but one thing is for sure you must let go of what is behind you in order to move forward.
Now the main point here is to let go of… but you don’t have to forget. You can still remember trying times, or others that hurt you but it should not affect your current relationships or future goals.
You must look at all obstacles as lessons learned and allow them tho help you make a better future.
Embrace the present, it’s the only thing you have for sure right now, and should not be overlooked by things you no longer have the power to change.
5.) Give up control for a happy life
Surrender, I repeat Surrender!
Now there are some things that are in our control things like…
The list goes on, but there are MANY things we are not in control of, and it’s our job to trust, and BELIEVE. Let go and let God.
If we could do everything on our own most of us would be living a different life, right? But there is beauty in the unknown. We are free when we don’t have to control every aspect of life and allow life to flow in a way that is meant for us.
What is for you in life will not pass you by. You must remember that you reap what you sow, and if you are consistent with the right habits and efforts the things you want in life will not elude you.
6.) Let go of that comfort zone!
One of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever received was there is no such thing as playing it safe and not risking anything.
Life is risk. There are things we do everyday that are risky. Things like…
- walking down the street
- going to the store at night
- catching a flight
There is risk in everything, and somehow we have been told a lie to believe that playing it safe is the best way.
Now you CAN play it safe as much as you want but you see you will never know your full potential if you always side on the er of caution.
There will be times where you will just have to JUMP and hope everything works out okay, and know that if it doesn’t YOU will be okay.
If you are in a situation right now that does not make you happy and you have the power to change it…JUMP!
You will never know what things could be or could have been if you are not willing to take a leap of faith into the unknown. Take risks, and if you want to learn more about financial risks read our articles on money so you always make a great choice!
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7.) Let go of limiting beliefs.
Somehow we have adopted this mindset that great things only happen to “those” people. Like who are these people that we are referring to? Great things happen to people who believe great things can happen to them…period.
In the pursuit of happiness, we put a lid on our potential and fall into the trap of being realistic with what we are capable of. There is room for everybody at the top and life is meant to be lived to the fullest.
Anything you mind can concieve it can achieve.Napolean Hill
So today, whatever is holding you back from believing you can achieve anything you set your mind to, let it go! If you need more inspiration to let go, read some more inspiring quotes.
8.) You are WORTHY!
Yes, YOU are! All the things you desire all the great things that have happened to you or WILL happen to you, you are worthy of.
If there are any thoughts in your mind that say otherwise it’s time to kick them to the curb immediately!
If not you than who?
Until next time ladies…
So Many Blessings,