Last Updated on October 12, 2020 by Brittany
Confidence is one of my most favorite things to discuss because I think that no matter where in life you are you should have it. Confidence is a conviction in your abilities no matter what is going on in your life. It means that you are aware that if there are some things you want to change you have all the power to do so. Now if up until this point you have been lacking in the confidence area today I am going to give you all of the tips and tricks to boost your confidence level to a 10! If you’re not sure if you got it then take the assessment!CLICK HERE!!!
In previous posts, I’ve written like 10 secrets of a confident woman, and Secret Traits of a Successful Woman. I go over what qualities confident and successful women possess but how do they actually get those qualities, right? I mean folks don’t just gain confidence, and conviction out of nowhere. So how do they do it? Welp if you have asked yourself this question you are in the right place because today we are going to discuss where to start to grow your confidence level on your own.
1.) Start where you are to immediately raise your confidence level.
One of the things that will immediately boost your confidence level is action. You see when you are in a state of inactivity that automatically breads fear which is not beneficial to you if you want to be in a state of confidence.
Fear tells you that you cannot do something or you will fail. Fear zaps your courage which is a key component to confidence.
Now, not all fear is bad. The fear that says “don’t touch that hot stove.” or “Your driving too fast.” is the fear created by your brain to protect you. Sometimes we need these signals in order to keep ourselves out of harm’s way. Although, there are times when our brain is reacting out of what it deems to be an uncertain situation when in reality it is just you pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone.
Many times women with a confidence problem are more focused on not being able to complete an action or gain the desired result than what they have to gain from taking the action to try it.
Everything does not, and will not be perfect. You must challenge yourself to do things you are afraid to do or you will never be able to see your confidence take off.
Confidence comes from doing things that others aren’t willing to do and not being afraid to look bad or make a mistake.
It also comes from finishing what you start!
2.) Discipline is the cure for a low confidence level.
I know that dreaded “D” word. If you’ve read enough personal growth books it seems like that’s all you hear people talk about.
But there is a reason for that…
You see success in anything is not a major secret or something you have not heard before. The issue lies when you HAVE heard it before but choose to either not listen or not to take action.
But that would never be you because you are here to become a Lady that “levels up” right? So that means you must be willing to hear good advice and take it. So back to the “D” word.
When you do not feel like doing something, and you do it anyway girl…you have just passed the test, and won the crown!
This is where all of your power lies, and if you want to be a confidence machine listen to your mind tell you not to do something that you know you SHOULD do and do it anyway.
This will automatically boost your confidence because at this moment you know that you are in control. When you put your life in your hands you are the most powerful woman to walk the face of the earth because this is YOUR life, and you tell it what you want from it.
Mel Robbins talks about her “5-second rule” which basically states whatever you have the inclination to do then do it in 5 seconds or your brain will kill the thought. That is where discipline comes into play. You must receive the thought about what you need to do and act on it right away. Because we all know what happens when you don’t act on something right away…
yep you guessed it, procrastination.
Procrastination leads to inactivity which leads to fear and then a confidence level at zero which is a NO-NO, and not what this post is about! I mean you are sabotaging your own success. Why even bother entertaining that when you know what road it will take you down.
So start being disciplined today! You can even start with the small stuff like getting up 10 mins earlier or saying NO to that donut you are offered every morning at the office.
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3.) Start following your vision TODAY.
Got a job you hate? Then do something so that someday you can quit. Yep, I said it! I know far too many people that do things day in and day out that are not aligned with their purpose.
Do not let this be you!
Now listen we all have bills to pay, and it is completely understandable to do things you don’t like to pay your rent or mortgage. I am NOT saying to quit your job today (unless you want to) what I am saying is in the words of Oprah Winfrey…
Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.
This also means you must be working on something else now. You see when you see people that are successful or where you want to be there are many years behind that in which you don’t see. Years of working on future goals while doing things they don’t like to get by.
The greatest predictor of your future self is what you are doing today.
Work your job, but always be working on yourself, so that one day you can do what you truly want to do, and can stop getting up each morning to a soul-sucking job.
When you are doing what you were created to do that automatically boosts confidence because you are being true to WHO you are.
4.) Don’t be afraid to use your voice.
You have so much to offer this world, and there is no sense in keeping quiet about great ideas, opinions, or standing up for yourself. Using your voice makes you one powerful woman however, there is a right way and a wrong way to use it.
Your voice should be used in a way where you can state your convictions, but ensure HOW you are saying things are only geared toward lifting others up. You have a unique voice that can help others or give someone else a word they need to hear to change their outlook on life.
Using your voice is empowering, and a sure sign that you are becoming more confident because you have a belief that what you’re saying, counts.
Because it DOES
Anything you can think of that has achieved greatness has not come about from someone who keeps their lips zipped all the time. So if up until this point you have been afraid to state your opinion, or speak up about something that can help others, begin today.
5.) The “When you look good you feel good” approach will boost your confidence level.
Truth be told that when you look good you feel good.
Now I am not saying how everyone else says you have to look, but how YOU feel most comfortable.
Ladies, we are not talking about a certain size or social status we are referring to you feeling like the best version of yourself while being healthy.
Whatever that looks like for you my dear!
The moral to the story is when you look and feel your best you not only exude confidence, but you perform better. When you perform better at certain tasks or skills it grows your confidence.
Think about giving a speech to 1000 people. For the average woman, this can be a tad bit scary if you haven’t done it before…right? Then top off the fear with the fact that you do not look how you feel best that day, and it’s a recipe for disaster.
Now think of yourself feeling at your peak on any given day. You look great and feel great. Sure you have to give a scary speech but your confidence is on 100 which means you do it afraid and NAIL IT! Not only were you confident in your presentation you were also proud of yourself for facing your fears which makes you even MORE confident.
So whatever you need to do to get your sexy back do it!
6.) Have an expectancy mindset.
Change your mind, change your life! In order to raise your confidence level, you must start to change the way you think about things. Let me tell you some REALLY exciting news.
You are in complete control of what thoughts you allow to take space up in your mind.
Isn’t that great?!
This means you have the power to say I will think this or WON’T think that. Doing this allows you to demand a mindset of expectancy.
Building confidence means starting to train your mind to believe that things are already on their way to you. This not only gives you a confident approach to your outlook on life, but it also requires that your thoughts work FOR you. Not the other way around.
When you are confident in your ability to create your future or the desired result it makes you unstoppable!
7.) Don’t mind the haters.
Because they don’t matter…and that is all
Girl you are about to be one confident mama! You GO GIRL!!
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So Many Blessings,