How To Create Effective affirmations for self esteem building
By Brittany Cherrell
Okay okay, I know you have heard this word affirmation thrown around for forever, and trust me I was a skeptic too at the beginning because I thought…okay so your telling ME I can turn the thoughts I have in my head around to serve me? I mean I wasn’t buying it. And if you’re like me maybe you have fallen into this category too. Maybe you have been stuck in a rut for some time and the mere thought of affirmations for self-esteem building seems like a far-fetched fairytale with no perfect ending.
Although, even though it may seem this way I am here to tell you that THEY WORK!
How do I know this you ask? Because I came to a point where nothing I mean nothing was working for me, and so I figured what the hell let’s give this a go!
I mean I couldn’t feel any worse about myself. I was already in a never-ending groundhogs day, going to a job I hated, merely existing, and feeling unworthy of anything in the world.
I mean what did I have to lose?
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So, I decided to figure this whole affirmation thing out, and do it in a way that was believable and most importantly effective. Here is how to create effective affirmations for self esteem building.
“It is the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction things begin to happen”
How to create affirmations for self esteem building
When I began creating affirmations I thought ugh this process seems daunting. However, what I realized quickly was that it was actually quite simple.
If you use a few “affirmation rules” you can get to creating effective ones that work in no time. But before we get into creating them let’s talk a little bit about HOW they work.
Emotions, feelings, life events, all of these things are a manifestation of what we think and speak.
Scratching your head a bit? Think of it this way…
Have you ever seen a car commercial and then all of a sudden start to see that car everywhere?
The reason for this is because what we are conscious of comes to form. So when we focus on things our brain finds ways to make them show up in our life.
You with me still? Okay.
This is why the mind and tongue are so powerful.
It’s almost like a yo-yo whatever you put out you get back, and so you must be aware of the things that flow through your mind.
If you let your mind go on autopilot I can assure you the things you don’t want will appear that is why you must be intentional.
This rings true with every aspect of your life. And we listen to our inner critic speak stuff to us all day long. If we are not careful with what we allow it to tell us it leads to things like low self esteem, and confidence.
Setting the actual affirmation
Alright so let’s get to the nitty-gritty here!
We got a little backstory now how do we actually set affirmations for self esteem?
I mean what do we say, and how?
Well. there are a few key rules in doing this, and this will make the process much easier for you.
Rule #1: The affirmation should be in the present tense as if you are experiencing it now. Starting your affirmation with “I am so happy now that” or “I am” will do the trick!
Rule #2: The affirmations need to be believable. In other words, if you try to tell your brain that you have a trillion dollars today (while possible) you won’t actually believe it therefore the affirmation will be ineffective.
Rule #3: When deciding what your affirmation should say write down a negative thought or something you are fearful of and write the exact opposite statement. So for instance if you are afraid that you will never find a way to rebuild your confidence and self esteem your affirmation could be.
“I am so grateful and happy now that I am finding ways and resources to grow and build my confidence and self esteem.”
Rule #4: The affirmations need to be placed somewhere you see them every day, and they need to be repeated at least 5 times each at least 3 times per day.
I tape mine on my bathroom mirror.
I do affirmations for everything! Here are some I repeat for money and business.
What will the affirmation actually do?
Okay so we are rolling right along here, and now we have our affirmations for self esteem written down. We begin to repeat them daily but are wondering what to expect.
So, the whole gameplan is to one, be intentional with your thoughts, and two retrain your way of thinking.
Believe it or not, the way you think now is just a manifestation of thoughts you’ve either told yourself over and over again or believed from someone else telling you.
These can be things you have heard as an adult or even a child.
But the great news is YOU have the power to change them!
Changing your thoughts leads to better feelings, emotions, and a better version of you!
However, don’t just stop there! Affirmations are a great starting point, but in addition to them dive into all sorts of self esteem and confidence courses, books, and classes that will help you take your belief even further!
I have a great course for women just starting their confidence and self esteem journey. You can find that HERE.
Ready. Set. AFFIRM!
Welp, that pretty much takes you through the process of HOW to set an affirmation, and to get you started check out this list of affirmations for self esteem below.
- I love myself for who I am.
- I totally trust myself.
- I grow in strength with every forward step I take.
- I can do anything I set my mind to do.
- I am capable and strong.
I am able to easily handle any problem I face.
- When I breathe, I inhale confidence and exhale fear.
- Fear is only a feeling. I can act in the face of fear.
I release my hesitation and make room for victory.
- I love meeting strangers and I approach them with boldness and
- I approve of myself and unconditionally deeply love myself.
- I live in the present and am confident about the future.
- My personality exudes confidence. I am bold and outgoing.
- I am self-reliant, creative, and persistent in whatever I do.
- I am energetic and enthusiastic. Confidence is my second nature.
- I always attract only the best of circumstances and the best positive
people in my life.
- I am a problem solver. I focus on solutions and always find the best
- I love change and easily adjust myself to new situations.
- I love challenges. They bring out the best in me.
- I know that I can master anything.
What affirmation will you start with first? Comment below!
So Many Blessings,