How to love yourself despite your circumstances
Let me be the first to say that life is tough! We go through all types of ups and downs like financial woes, job losses, marital issues the list goes on. Although, these unwanted circumstances inevitably make us who we are. I wanted to write this post today because I feel it’s important to be clear on the fact that just because hard things happen to us doesn’t mean we are any less worthy in life. Sometimes when things don’t go as planned we take it as a personal attack against who we are. Although, there are times when we might not make the best decisions there is always a way to bounce back and come out better than before. However, if you are able to remember how to love yourself despite your circumstances you will bounce through all of the ups and downs of life without losing yourself. Here are 6 ways to ensure you love yourself no matter what is going on in your life.
1.) take a personal asset inventory
I also like to refer to this as a personal brag book.
Take some quiet time for yourself and you can even jazz it up! Draw a bubble bath or do a foot soak in your robe, and just start a list of all of the good qualities you admire about yourself.
You will soon realize that no matter what is thrown your way your knack for kindness, or sincerity can never be taken from you.
Once you begin your list refer back to it as much as you’d like. You can also add more assets to it as they come across your mind.
Soon you will have a massive list of amazing qualities. Who couldn’t love themselves with all these strong points?
2.) Separate who you are from what's happening to you
Listen there are a million things that could go wrong at any given time in life.
If you treat each occurrence like a personal attack you will find it difficult to keep your view of yourself in perspective. One of the greatest pieces of advice I’ve ever heard is…
“It’s never what happens to you, but it’s always what you DO about what happens to you.”
When things get tough you must remember how tough YOU are. This will automatically make you remember your power, and be grateful for your resilience in any situation.
Where most would crumble you have built a strength to overcome, and that is one way how to love the person you have become.
3.) Always be committed to growing your self esteem
Your self esteem meter is like a muscle. The more you work on developing it the stronger it gets. When you truly learn how to separate who you are from the things that happen to you this can do nothing but be beneficial for you.
It’s almost like a savings account. When life gets hairy and you need a little extra cash you have a surplus you can dip into. The same rings true here.
When you are proactive in developing the skills you need to handle what comes your way you have a reserve deep inside yourself that you can dip into and gain the strength you need to move forward.
I am an absolute advocate for developing self esteem…do you need help but aren’t sure where to start?
4.) Remember that what goes up must come down
This can be a tough step to remember in life (especially when ish hits the fan) When you are going through extremely difficult circumstances the main thing to keep in mind is that life is a constant cycle of change.
Although things may truly be tough now, it won’t be that way forever.
Remember how much stronger you will be when you get through whatever you are dealing with. This will give you the courage to go through it and is one of the major keys to learning how to love yourself.
It’s also a great way to help others who may deal with the same things you have.
Everybody LOVES a testimony!
5.) Remember who you are in the eyes of the good lord
No matter if you are religious or not one thing we must remember is that we are each an amazing creation.
Right now wherever you are just think of the eyes you have that are reading this, or the fingers that clicked on this post.
As we deal with the trials and tribulations of life we must not forget all of the amazing things we have right now.
Regardless of what we have obtained, we are perfect right now at this exact moment, and no set of spectacular circumstances can change that.
6.) Realize that this may actually be your time to shine
When times get tough, and you make it through this truly shows the capabilities you have deep down inside.
What may seem like a defeating chain of events may actually be a way for you to show yourself and others what you are truly made of.
Sometimes we find the strength we didn’t even know we had which shows us how to love ourselves even MORE.
Not because we are self righteous or conceited but because of the scars that got us there.
Whatever you are going through today remember how amazing and beautiful you are.
You will get through this, and come out better than before.
So Many Blessings,